The Art of Receiving ~ Sensually
I recently had dinner with a good friend of mine and we were discussing relationships and meeting people and why she couldn’t find someone and the topic of receiving came up. My friend, like myself, is a very strong independent woman. We can do anything ourselves, or die trying and never ask for help. This is a great trait to have if you live alone but if you’re trying to have a meaningful relationship with the male species it can sometimes be a problem. For instance, a man approached my friend and asked if he could buy her a beer, her reply was thanks but no thanks I can buy my own beer! OK, well the truth is she could buy her own beer, and that’s ok, but unless the guy is super creepy she just missed out on the opportunity to meet what might have been a special guy or just made a friend. He wanted to treat her but she didn’t know how to receive. This is a common problem I see among my friends, they don’t know how to receive. I recognize this behavior because I use to be just like them. I’m a very strong person and when I need something done, I just do it. I never would ask for help. I could never accept a compliment without first looking for a negative about myself. If someone said I looked nice today, I would find a problem with the outfit. I could never just say “Thank you”. Easiest two words in the English language but the hardest to come out without a “but” following it. Thank you but this shirt isn’t the right color.
With Christmas coming and as we approach the season of gift giving, I wanted to approach the subject of receiving as a sensually fit woman. I know this sounds strange as holidays are usually the “gift giving” season, but it’s also a time when we are receiving. We’re receiving gifts, compliments, food, love and more from the special people in our lives. Are you a good receiver? Do you receive from a sensually fit place in your life? What I mean is, do you feel you are worthy of receiving and show it lovingly and gracefully in your responses? I’ll give you an example, I see it often. Your favorite man brings you a present, instead of saying thank you and being grateful that he thought of you, you start to analyze the WHY he brought you the gift or complain that it wasn’t what you wanted? You start to think if he really knew you he would have bought me this or that. As women we don’t make the art of giving for the male easy. We’re complex, we think they should know EXACTLY what we want and sometimes they are just clueless. Even when they do know what we want, we sometimes make it difficult for them. All they want to do is make us happy, and sometimes, they may not do or pick the right thing. A little appreciation goes a long way here. The best thing I ever did for myself was to learn to say yes, and thank you. Yes, I would love a beer and thank you for thinking of me. I learned to appreciate the man in my life for every single gesture he does for me from the fixing of my truck which keeps me safe, to the cup of coffee he always gets me when I stumble out of bed hating morning, or to the thoughtful gifts he gives me on special holidays. One may not think fixing my truck is romantic, but ladies, it really is. Fixing my truck keeps me safe and coming home to him. That in itself is the most romantic gesture because it shows he loves me. As we enter into this holiday season, appreciate the special people in your life and show them with a sensually fit response…a graceful and loving “Thank you for thinking of me” I promise you won’t regret it.